If you donвЂ™t know where youвЂ™re headed, how can doing the same thing over and over again get you any closer to where you really want to be? Embracing Inconsistency In fact, if thatвЂ™s the case, I think consistency will do more harm than good. However, if youвЂ™re not quite sure what path youвЂ™re meant to be on yet, then consistency is overrated. The thing is, if youвЂ™ve found the path that works for you, then go for it. ItвЂ™s a classic case of copying tactics without understanding the strategy. Yet, I canвЂ™t help but notice that people blindly accept consistency as the road to their success. Consistency is a virtueвЂ¦ if youвЂ™re not a screw-up. I think itвЂ™s valuable for a lot of reasons. The other ended with a pit of spikes for her to be impaled on over and over again for eternity.DonвЂ™t get me wrong, I donвЂ™t want to condemn consistency. One would be by my side, meeting my conditions. God's love would have been like me telling her back then that I'd created two paths for her to follow. The fact that she fell outside of 'my grace' doesn't diminish that. That was her consequence - and I wish her well.lol Heck, let's say I discovered she was in a burning building and I had it within my power to go get her out. I don't love her any more, I left her, and she's out there doing her own thing whatever it may be. Too often that 'you need to model your love after God's unconditional love' argument gets presented to me - and I have no idea what they're talking about.ДЇor example, let's take someone I can use as an example of how my conditional love applied.

So what do you think? Is human love overrated (even dangerous), or is it what makes the world go round? ThereвЂ™s lots and lots of heartache (even suicide) because of the transitory nature of the feelings involved. And of course these behaviors wreak havoc in an otherwise вЂњcommittedвЂќ relationship. And there is plenty of adultery and fornication going around because the couple feels in love. There are murders committed because either the love light goes out, or it turns on for someone else. So if you married because of love and that candle burns out, what are you supposed to do?ДЄnd this is just the tip of the iceberg. 5:25 (if youвЂ™re the husband), but you canвЂ™t generate romantic feelings by the force of will. Yes, you can perform acts of love, service, kindness, etc., and thereby fulfill Eph. In my experience, you canвЂ™t make yourself love someone.

In a marriage based on objective criteria, you get вЂ“ and stay вЂ“ married based on the commitments youвЂ™ve made to each other and because (hopefully) the criteria havenвЂ™t changed. It stands to reason: if you got married because you were вЂњin loveвЂќ, then you might as well get divorced because you fall out of love.

Marriages were arranged by the parents based on more objective criteria than some ephemeral, subjective feeling that overtakes two people at the same time.ДЇor a whole lot of folks, this feeling of love doesnвЂ™t last. Of course it hasnвЂ™t always been this way, and for many cultures it still isnвЂ™t. WhatвЂ™s the first question a friend asks you when you tell them youвЂ™re thinking of becoming engaged? вЂњDo you love her?вЂќ Meaning, do you have romantic feelings for her. For one thing, it drastically limits who you tend to get romantically involved with. There are problems with love being feelings based. Obviously, IвЂ™m talking about human love and not agape, and IвЂ™m talking about romantic love that (usually) exists between a man and a woman. Despite all the books, sermons, and talks weвЂ™ve all been exposed to over the years, love (at least in the West) is mostly about feelings. IвЂ™m sure IвЂ™ll get a lot of blowback from this (especially from those in happy relationships), but since IвЂ™m not in a happy relationship IвЂ™d like to get this off my chest.

I think love is overrated